The Definition of Loneliness
Being lonely is not having someone to talk to. Being lonely is talking to a room full of people and not one of them understanding what you're saying. Being lonely is understanding what everyone is about and no one understanding what you are. Loneliness is when no one reads between the lines- perhaps because they don't can't or perhaps because they don't care enough to. Loneliness is when no one wants to delve deeper or seek more of you; when no one wants to hear what you have to say and no one acknowledges that you even possess a voice. Loneliness is when you batter your head against a wall and no one notices your bloody face. Being lonely is when no one wants to know or hear what you "think". Loneliness is being surrounded by fools who are happy in their ignorance. Loneliness is envying those happy fools.
posted by this is me | Wednesday, August 09, 2006
19 Comments:
Loneliness is the realization that we are all individuals, that we stand alone, and that we are solely judged on our actions. We are the masters of our own destiny. That destiny is now in your hands and can be very overwelming at times.
Its petulance that demands others to put aside the task at hand to pry from you what the problem is with you.
It is love for someone to look into your eyes and seek a deeper understanding of you; to share a connection that will test the limits of time.
And it is our deepest desire for someone you care for to make you the most important person in their life.
Loneliness is being too crowded within to get to talk to someone else sometimes.
Loneliness is walking on roads covered with trees thinking of whom to share these moments with.
Loneliness is in The Old Man and the Sea.
Lonely are you and me,
Me and he.
All the ands placed perfectly,
yet WE remain all so lonely.
An infirm old man
Looking out of a window
Unwelcome, empty.
this is the image that comes to my mind when i think of loneliness...very nicholas sparks type ...
Loneliness is too intense an experience to contain itself within a definition. So kanu bai can go fish.
nicole, thats why I didnt try to define it. Its amazing that the most basic of these human emotions are so universal.
chamki, i totally see myself as that girl who wonders if she'll ever share the wonders that lie within her and those that she sees outside of her with someone. and the tree lined streets, god....
beautiful end to the insight you gave us.
Aditi, youre getting to be a master at haiku. Techncally sound and yet evocative. Very good.
Definition of you need to post something new :p
life is so unfair
with no one for u to care
yet it is so fair!
Walking down an empty road
Gettin wet in the rain
"THE END" of.......
Sitting on that balcony
with lights switched off
Those eagles soarin high amongst
The changin colour of the sky
From blue to purple
From orange to red and magenta
And then slowly to towards
that BLACK
Can't say if its the end of a day, or the end of a lifetime....
Can't feel beginning of new times,
seems like the death of
some old ones
My God Surru.
You have shoked me. Poetry and all? My roommate has talents I knew nothing of.
i can feel goosebumps as i read ur post...need i say more???
akshata! You never check my blog! never comment. I won't call you!
thanks akshata. just happens at times.....
i have a better definition of lonliness... i agree to yours but that's a step higher to my mind.
i suffered the other one. the realone. and very bad!!!
hey pallavi ,
today i rediscovered myself in you .. i was a fool not to read your blog earlier ..
there were so many things that i could relate to u at that point of time but just failed to communicate ..
now i actually understand what u feel .. read all ur posts .. too tired now .. wail post u a reply as soon as possible ..
Dear Anonymous,
whoever you are, I am really happy that you identify with what I think and feel. Especially that you somehow find some meaning in your own life through what is written in this blog.
But please, I really feel cheated when people leave anonymous comments. I mean you know me enough to read my blog and comment, but you can't tell me who you are? Now thats not fair.
loneliness....is realising the truth...only love is self love.....you have friends..why are they friends with you?coz they are comfortable with you...they are happy with you...so reason for their friendship is "their happiness"....we wont be friendly with someone who doesnt make us happy!!!!all of us are selfish...and in search of our self....when we realise this..we know that we are alone!!!!alone in a crowd...everyone living for himself...and herself...and yes depending on others!!!
Vinay, what you say is only partly true. We need friends, ofcourse we do,but not just for our happiness, but theirs too. You can't live your life completely selfishly, you do at least somethings that are not motivated by selfishness and self promotion. Sometimes you just want to make someone happy. You just want to see your friend smile. And you're willing to walk a mile for it.
yes...i want to make my friend happy...and i will do things for her..to see a smile...and then what happens??i get happy!!! so ultimately i can say "her smile makes me happy"...right? so i have done for my happiness....sorry if i sound stupid..but thz thought has been bugging me for sometime now!!!
I still don't agree. See, if you do something to make someone smile, your intention is to make the other person smile, not to make yourself happy. The fact that someone's smile makes you happy is only incidental. It's a by product or side effect of your primary action, that was making someone smile.
Anyway, I also believe that its very very difficult, in fact near impossible to do things to make just yourself happy, and to always just look out for yourself. Taht kind of happiness is hollow nd fake, and you realize that sooner or later and then get depressed. Real joy is always in making other people happy.
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